BE is only peripherally aware of this blog. She knows the name of it, and she knows that I write about being an adoptive mother and about living in Detroit. At her request, I read her one of my recent posts. She wanted to know why I refer to her and BC by their initials. I tried to explain that being part of this family is her story too. That when she’s old enough, she can tell her story in her own way. And it will be her choice to attach her name to it.
A few days later, she showed me a piece of paper where she had written “her story.” It was just a few sentences long and she told me she wanted to “put it on the computer.” When I reminded her that my blog is available for anyone to read, she changed her mind. I assured her that I didn’t mind and that she could always share a story in the future if she wanted to.
I can see in other ways that she’s trying to make sense of her own story. I’m looking forward to seeing how it evolves over the coming years.
Shannon Mackie 
Adopted children have a lot to figure out that is for sure. My girls are still doing it. I love how you explained that she has her own story. She is a blessed little girl to have you.
I’m sure it’s a lifelong process.
That sounds like a huge cognitive leap. And you gave her good guidance.
Best wishes for all of you with school next week!
thanks!
And you’ve given me an idea. I’m going go ask my kids if they’d like to write their stories.
Let me know how it goes!
I have frequently wondered what my daughter will think if my blog down the road. Interesting post- thank you.