Category Archives: Adoption

For as long as I can remember I’ve wanted to be a writer. I’ve been a little more serious about writing lately, mostly because it helps me make sense of what my family and I are going through. A while back, I entered NPR’s “three minute fiction” competition, which is currently in its sixth round.Continue reading “Writing reject”

Sometimes, this is my favorite room in our house: It’s all thanks to this: I confess, it’s true. When I have to use this room, I immediately lock the door. It’s the only room in our house with a lock. So, no matter how long BE and BC stand outside the door, knocking and yelling,Continue reading “My favorite room”

I’m excited to share my first guest post! This is from my mother, “Grandma G”, and this is her adoption story. _____________________________________________________________________________ I wasn’t prepared for the news that my daughter shared with me one night as we sat in a restaurant with my younger daughter and my husband. I was told that she andContinue reading “Guest Post: A Grandmother’s Adoption Perspective”

I’ve always been a little bit of a perfectionist. When I was not much older than BE, I remember deciding to do a homework assignment in block letters. It took a long time to write it this way, but I was stubborn – every letter had to be a block letter and I wasn’t satisfiedContinue reading “Searching for a connection: candy and Hello Kitty”

BC came home with this sticker on his shirt today. He said his day care teacher put it there. I don’t know the story behind it, but I thought it was so cute!

Book Review: Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control by Heather Forbes and Bryan Post Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control is a manifesto against attachment parenting.  I’ve never done any of my own research on attachment parenting, but I do know that it is used by many adoptive parents to create attachment with their children – especiallyContinue reading “My amygdala is calmer than your amygdala”

A few weeks ago, BE and I were on the way to school, when she asked me, “If I had been in your tummy, what would you have named me?” I know there are many girls, teenagers, and even women who think about what they would name their baby when they have one. These areContinue reading “What would you name me?”

I’m pretty good about not taking things personally, but sometimes, in a moment of weakness, I let something insignificant get to me. Tonight started out well with BE. She even made me this: But, by bedtime, I had morphed into mean mommy. Her exact words were, “you’re so mean.” Normally, I would let an insultContinue reading “Nice mom, mean mom”

Sometimes I have a strange fantasy. It usually starts in the mornings when BE is asking me for toast, BC needs a napkin, then BE spill her milk, and BC is saying, “mommy, mommy, mommy,” over and over again. So I say, ” I only have two arms, I can only do one thing atContinue reading “I am the octopus”

The kids don’t often talk about their parents, but when the topic comes up, I always try to follow the advice in the adoption books.  The authors always lecture readers about respecting their children’s first family. And, actually it’s not very hard for me to do this. Although I know a lot about their history,Continue reading “First family questions”