When Work is More Appealing than Staying Home

I have a confession: I’m nervous about being home with my kids just two days a week this summer. I’ve been working full-time for most of the years the kids have been with us, but now I’m working three days a week. BC stayed home with me two days this week and it went fine.Continue reading “When Work is More Appealing than Staying Home”

Dealing with Uncertainty

I hate uncertainty¬†as much as anyone, and I like to be in control. This is probably why I lean towards a more rigid parenting style. But, I’ve been trying to achieve more of balance with the Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control method. In her recent newsletter, author Heather Forbes addresses how to handle children whoContinue reading “Dealing with Uncertainty”

BCLC: Rejecting Positive Messages

Heather Forbes recently sent out her latest e-mail newsletter, and as always, she answered a reader’s question. Here’s the question: “My son had a terrible early childhood history and constantly tells me he is a bad boy and that nobody loves him. Yet, no matter how much we tell him what a good boy heContinue reading “BCLC: Rejecting Positive Messages”

The New Outcome

In Heather Forbes’ latest newsletter, she answers a reader’s question about the progress of his son under “Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control” (BCLC). Here’s his question: For the past six years, we have been implementing the Beyond Consequences parenting model with our son and have seen a massive amount of improvements.¬†We have changed our lifestyle,Continue reading “The New Outcome”

Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control Volume 2

Ever since reading the first Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control (BCLC), book more than a year ago, I’ve become a big fan. I’ve finally finished Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control volume 2, and at first I was tempted to say that I preferred the second installment. But, the ideas behind volume 2 would actually beContinue reading “Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control Volume 2”

PLACE Parenting

I’m a regular reader of Help 4 Your Family, a blog written by therapist Kate Oliver. She recently posted about “PLACE parenting,” which was so helpful, that it will soon find a place on my fridge. Here’s a summary: “Daniel Hughes and Art Becker-Weidman are working to popularize a parenting attitude that really can workContinue reading “PLACE Parenting”

Addressing Food-Related Issues

In Heather Forbes’ latest newsletter, she answers a reader’s question about a child’s refusal to eat dinner. Here’s the question: “My four-year-old sits down to dinner and says, ‘I don’t like that.’ He either won’t eat at all or won’t eat his vegetables. He then gets annoyed, trying to leave the table, whining and refusingContinue reading “Addressing Food-Related Issues”

Back to school, BCLC style

In Heather Forbes’ latest e-newsletter, she answers addresses the following issue from a reader: “My son is an angel at school but a terror at home. He was even student of the month last school year. But when he gets home, our home is absolute chaos and he is just nasty to me.“ BE strugglesContinue reading “Back to school, BCLC style”

Inside I’m Hurting: a wider vision

As the last entry in my series of book reviews on Louise Michelle Bomber’s book, Inside I’m Hurting, I’d like to include a quote from her final chapter. I really respect Bomber’s vision for working with attachment-challenged children in schools. Unfortunately, I think it’s very unlikely that her suggestions could be adopted in the U.S.Continue reading “Inside I’m Hurting: a wider vision”

Inside I’m Hurting: splitting

I’d like to continue my series of book reviews on Inside I’m Hurting by Louise Michelle Bomber with another excerpt from Chapter 8: “Permanency and Constancy.” In this chapter, Bomber explains the concept of splitting – “the process of viewing or judging something or someone as either all bad or all good, rather than havingContinue reading “Inside I’m Hurting: splitting”