Living in a Segregated World

Living in Detroit

As a Caucasian raised in the suburbs, I recognize that I don’t have much authority when it comes to racial issues. When we moved to Detroit, we became the minorities for the first time in our lives. There’s been talk about how younger generations are “post racial,” but that’s not clear to me here in Detroit, where segregation is still the norm.

Here, the segregation occurs between the city and suburbs. I really want a more diverse experience for my children and I know that their experience will be undoubtedly different from mine. But, so far, my kids are living in two different worlds. In the city, we’re exposed to one culture, and when we visit our family and friends in the suburbs, we see a different monoculture. It would be great to have both come together, but when it comes to things like this, I can be a little naive.

Family in the city

Living in Detroit

For most of my life, I’ve lived in suburban Detroit, but J and I have always liked cities. For a number of reasons, we recently decided to a buy a place near downtown Detroit. Detroit certainly has a bad reputation, but many people from southeast Michigan know that young people are moving back to the city. Some of these people have families, but many don’t.

As always, I’ll continue to write about our adoption experience, but occasionally I’ll write about our experience as a family with young kids living in Detroit. Like many locals, I’d like to see the city come back, but that will only happen when people (both singles and families) decide to make Detroit their home. If you live in Detroit with your kids, or if you have questions about our (forthcoming) experience raising a family in the city, send me an e-mail at Of course, I welcome e-mails about adoption and foster care too!